“I’ve got this hole…”: Experiences of therapist involuntary childlessness with clients in therapeutic practice

  • Martin Stokley Spurgeon's College, London
  • Val Sanders University of Greenwich
Keywords: Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis, Childlessness, Qualitative research, Therapist self-disclosure, Therapeutic relationship, Counselling, Psychotherapy

Abstract

Little has been written on how therapists experience their practice in relation to involuntary childlessness. There have been no systematic research projects exploring solely the therapist’s voice on this issue to date with only two pieces of literature specifically discussing therapist involuntary childlessness in professional practice. This research explores the lived experience of qualified therapists regarding involuntary childlessness in therapeutic practice filling the gap in the existing literature. Four female participants were recruited through an initial online survey and they completed an audio recorded semi-structured interview. One of the researchers also completed a written self-interview to add a missing male voice to the research. Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis was used to analyse all five interviews. Three main themes were identified: ‘Experience of own childlessness in work with clients’, ‘Therapist childlessness beyond client work’, and ‘Therapist childlessness and theory’. This article concentrates on explicating the main theme ‘Experience of own childlessness in work with clients’ with the further two main themes being the subject of a future article. Findings indicate that therapist involuntary childlessness cannot be separated from therapeutic practice and greater awareness of the potential proactive countertransference is needed. In addition, issues around client judgement, implicit self-disclosure, and the potential positive benefit of vicarious parenthood are considered.

Author Biographies

Martin Stokley, Spurgeon's College, London

Martin Stokley is an integrative counsellor holding a Diploma in Counselling and an MSc Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich. He has several years’ experience of working in both a specialist bereavement and general counselling setting. He currently works with a variety of client issues at a counselling agency in south-east London. Martin is also a part-time lecturer in practical theology.

Val Sanders, University of Greenwich

Val Sanders is a Senior Lecturer at the University of Greenwich, holding an MSc in Therapeutic Counselling (University of Greenwich) and an MA in working with groups (Tavistock & Portman), who has been teaching on the BACP accredited MSc programme for 12 years.  She is also a senior accredited BACP therapist and supervisor and carries a small private practice of over 25 years.

Published
2019-12-21
How to Cite
Stokley, M., & Sanders, V. (2019). “I’ve got this hole…”: Experiences of therapist involuntary childlessness with clients in therapeutic practice. European Journal for Qualitative Research in Psychotherapy, 9, 88-102. Retrieved from http://ejqrp.org/index.php/ejqrp/article/view/71
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